If there is one thing we can say about present day dating, it is that it has definitely changed. I can imagine what dating used to be like, without social media, and online dating sites, and other methods of communication that are now present. We don’t realize how easy technology has made things for us. Before tinder existed, you had to go out and find a girl and yes this meant getting off your couch. It was all about the present, and by present I mean that love was not discovered by websites and profiles but by love at first site. If a man saw a girl he liked walking past the corner store he just might have to stop her to say hello with fear of never seeing her again. This generation has no idea what that feels like. With dating sites, social media, and texting the excitement you get from seeing someone for the first time quickly disappears. This is because you’re not actually seeing them for the first time, you are seeing what they want themselves to be portrayed as, which can cause many problems. Tinder for example, a new app that allows you to “like” or “pass” pictures of men and women. This concept is your modern day “love at first sight”. The only problem is, it is very possible that the person in the picture is not at all who they claim to be. Of course people may argue that dating sites and such allow the two parties to get to know each other well enough before venturing out on a first date. Of course there is some truth to this, but i’m sure many of us know how well people can act behind a computer screen.
Our modern day dating system has changed the whole dating scene completely. Back in the day if you liked a girl you went out and asked her out maybe dancing or maybe to dinner. Now a days, you ask a girl to come over to your house or for a drink, how romantic. I can’t even begin to explain how much texting has affected the dating system, and love all together. Texting is a thing called non verbal communication. You never have to say a word and can talk to somebody for hours. Texting is great and all when it comes to important messages that need to be sent, but when it comes to daily communication things get very complicated. You see, non verbal communication is hard to decipher. This is due to the fact that went we actually communicate using our words and body language the other person gets a clear idea of what you are saying. Your body says more than your mouth, remember that. So when you take away the main cues that humans need to communicate you get what we call mixed signals. Then we proceed to sit there at home starting at our mobile devices contemplating if “kk” means a person is angry or just busy. Not to mention how anxious we get when someone doesn’t answer our text messages right away. If you were face to face with that person there would be no doubt in your mind what that “kk” meant and there would be no delay in response.
As if finding love back in the day wasn’t hard enough, it just became harder. We have now thrown screens in between us and are pushing ourselves away more than bringing each other close. The idea of love has changed for so many and I can speak for my generation when I say that many have given up on it. Hell, I’ve given up on love so many times, and of course it always seems like the most logical thing to do when your heart won’t stop hurting. Love has now been modified for everyone to find it, and with ease. But as the saying goes, nothing good every comes easy.
Although I have to give social media some praise as to advancing the way we meet people. I can admit that social media sites have greatly improved the amount of people I talk to and see. But social media, and texting can sometimes ruin what love is really about and this is where I ask you to think about this. The dating game has changed and will never be the same. The way men and women think about the other sex has also changed. It is important to remember that nothing is better than meeting someone face to face and getting the full experience of what this person has to offer. Non verbal communication is painful compared the verbal communication, because you miss out on what is real. You miss out on what is right in front of you, and the feeling you get from locking eyes with someone you love. If social media has ruined the human connection for you already then don’t let it ruin love the same.
My heart truly hurts for the people who have given up on love, because it truly is one of the best feelings in the world. I can also relate to the pain of having your heart broken and I’m not here to say that it is easy trying to put it back together. But I truly believe the best medicine for a broken heart is love, whether it be from a new partner, a friend or family, and with the risk of sounding cheesy, love is really all you need. With that said, and as Maya Angelou once said, “have enough courage to trust love one more time, and always one more time.” For you never know where that one more time will take you.